Last week the unthinkable happened. After what seemed like an eternity of no one in my household getting sick, one by one we all did, all five of us-including me.
I was starting to think the universe knew that moms can't get sick.
In my 9+ years of being a parent I don't think our house has gotten hit as bad as it did last week. It was the stomach bug, a nasty germ, and you just knew no one was getting out unaffected.
Moms can't get sick!
Day three of the stomach bug hitting the kids hard, and then I started to feel it. I was sick but I was unable to act like it. That's the tough part about being a mom, if you're sick life still has to go on. Kids need care, husband still goes off to work, the house still needs tending to.
I saw a pin on Pinterest recently, it said "The trouble with being the strong one, is that no one ever asks you how YOU'RE doing?" I really couldn't agree more. At this point, with no one to complain to, no one to take care of me and let me sleep all day, why even voice the fact that I'm sick?
The only blessing in disguise was that I got sick while the kids were sick so thankfully they just wanted to sleep and lay around all day, which allowed me to get some much needed rest with them.
I sucked it up, barely even mentioned to anyone how awful I felt and then bam! my husband got sick the next day when he got home from his 24 hour shift. Naps, hot baths, blankets, pillows and more naps. He let me know how awfully bad he felt and I replied "yeah, I was sick like that yesterday."
"You couldn't have felt like this," he said. "I feel horrible."
I thought about it and decided I felt strong. I did not to comment back, I just went on caring for him as I did my kids. I'm not sure I've ever felt like more of a mother then I did that week.
How about you? Do you get sick days? Ever feel like I do? Why bother even telling anyone you're sick when you know it isn't going to mean you can take the day off?
Tarren Date 3/25/2013
I am sorry, but to me, that would have been a very low blow for him to tell you "You couldn't have felt like this." How the heck do they know? And why is it that men seem to be bigger babies than women when they get sick? Why is it ok for us to take care of them like we take care of the kids but it's not ok for moms to get sick or take time off to rest and recoup? I know being a woman is not a fair deal in the world anymore, but really, this article just ticks me off, and not because of the writ
Lynea W Date 3/25/2013
Moms do not get sick. We went through this 2 weeks ago and my littles are 1.5 and almost 3. 2 days after I got over the bug and was feeling 70% human again, he got sick. And there was no leaving the kids with him for 2 hours to go run errands and pick him up some hydration...like he did to me. Moms just do. We make it work, whether it is 1 kid or 7, we just do. Life would not go on, very smoothly, if we didn't. We earn our Tiger stripes (stretch marks) and should wear them with pride.
Amy Date 3/25/2013
For me it comes
To the point that if am sick I can't be and mind over matter. If I have help and u can rest then I will but my husband is military so when he is gone I don't get sick I can't plane and simple. The mind is powerful and so is The Lord.
Susan W. Date 3/25/2013
I probably would have strangled my husband had he said that to me - and he has said some very similar things when we were both sick. I think the worst of it was back in January; My daughter and I both had the flu. On top of that I also had morning sickness that was doubled by the antibiotics I was taking for a UTI. I felt like I had been hit by a truck, but I had to keep on taking care of my daughter since my husband works 12 hour shifts. Thankfully, for his sake, he was pretty sympathetic that
Vicki Hall Date 8/14/2013
I'm not allowed to get sick . If I do get sick I try to keep busy as much as possible other wise I dwell on how miserable I feel so I really don't mind taking care of everybody else if they're sick too.