How to make sure you get cloth diapers at your baby shower!

Posted by Becca on 12/4/2013 to Cloth Diaper How-To
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A Cloth Diaper Baby Shower

After all the baby showers Iíve attended recently, Iíve come to this conclusion: If you really want a cloth diaper stash from your guests, donít just register for it, include the request in your invitation.

Iíve been to a lot of baby showers of moms who registered for and/or requested cloth diapers, including mine. Without fail, they receive either no cloth diapers (like me), or only a handful, and Iím usually the one giving that handful which makes sense since Iím a cloth diaper fanatic. I feel like a big contributing factor to this is that people often forget to buy shower gifts until the last minute, myself included, so they donít generally opt for online shopping, which is where the majority of cloth diapers are found. I suppose that another reason this happens is that people donít know about cloth diapers and/or arenít interested in them personally so buying a cloth diaper is either boring to them, or they assume the cloth phase wonít last and they get something cuter and ďmore usefulĒ such as clothing or teething toys. I also think that many people buy baby gifts for themselvesómeaning, they get the cute things they want to buy, which is why both of my kids are so well dressed! Iím not knocking this. Every mom loves tons of cute outfits to choose from. Now, all these things are really great, but if a mom asks for cloth diapers, sheís really asking for you to help her save thousands of dollars so she can put that money into her grocery budget, gas budget, or even college fund. You may spend only $15 on a diaper, but in the long run youíre putting $40-$200 or more in her pocket. Itís the gift that keeps on giving!

The first time I went to a successful cloth-diaper-stash-building baby shower, it was one I threw myself. I bent over backwards to make sure the couple had a plentiful stash. In the invitations I suggested that people either buy the diapers themselves or that they give me some cash and Iíd get them. Most people opted for the latter and I was able to stack coupons and incentives from various cloth diaper retailers to get a stash of about 15 cloth diapers. Another group of friends teamed up together to buy 6 bumgenius and the couple was set with all they needed for the diapering years of their baby daughter.

The second successful stash-building shower was for a friend of mine and I had nothing to do with it. From the start she told me she was very interested in cloth diapers so I knew Iíd be getting her some as a gift. I invested in a bunch of different kind of diapers for her, hand-making some fitteds and covers, buying a handful of newborn prefolds and snappis, and getting a pail liner and a couple of one sized pockets. As usual, I didnít think anyone else would actually get her these things, so I got as many as I could afford. Then, I got her invitation and in it her mother had written the cutest little poem about how the new baby was so blessed to have many, wonderful things already and what the couple really wanted was cloth diapers. If was adorable and it made me feel quite justified in including only diapers and diaper accessories in my shower gift. I got to the showeróa very well-attended affairóand I was delightfully surprised to see that nearly everyone had bought one or two cloth diapers! After a lovely time of fellowship, food, and presents, this blessed couple had an entire stash of cloth diapers, and then some. Theyíll never have to spend another dime on diapers again if they so choose. For someone like me who 1) had to pinch, save, and deal hunt over the course of months until my cloth diaper stash was complete and 2) is kind of in love with the fluffy stuff, this was amazing and I was both happy for them and a tiny bit jealous. But the cloth diaper awesomeness didnít stop there. They had a super fun shower game where two guests teamed together to use only one arm each to diaper a baby doll. First, we used a disposable diaper, and then we used a, bumGenius 4.0 that had to be adjusted to the correct size and stuffed during the course of the game. I participated, might I add, while baby-wearing my sleeping two-month oldóand me and my partner got the best time! The game was hilarious and educational. The guests, too, were a fun group of women! Most of them had babies or toddlers and almost all of them were closer to the all-natural living, attachment parenting side of life. There were Ergo carriers, cloth diapers, and amber teething necklaces everywhere, and the guest of honor had a gaggle of us surrounding her and giving her our natural birthing stories and advice. It was definitely the most awesome shower Iíve ever attended.

Lesson learned? Iíll say it again: if you really want a cloth diaper stash built for you, you should tell those people arranging your showers to include something about how you really need diapers in your shower invitations. Youíll have a lot less diapers to buy in the long run, but youíll also get the same awesome stashes of clothing, burp cloths, pacifiers, and teething toys that is generally expected since most people really enjoy getting those things no matter what the mother says about not needing them.

Comments

Date 12/5/2013
Tracy M Dennison
I didn't start CDing til my last one was 6 months, but a CD shower would've been awesome!
Date 12/5/2013
Kelly Hutslar
I wish I would have put that on the invitations!
Date 12/5/2013
Alison Gambill
I wish I'd CD'd from the start so I could have done this!!!
Date 12/5/2013
Luisa Baginski
I put some in my registry (didn't get any) but didn't want to push it as husband really wasn't sold on CD. However, once Baby was here, it only took a few daysand one package of disposables bought at 2am before he was all in. His words - yeah, we're gonna get pee and poop on everything anyway, let's save some money!' We were lucky enough to get a beautiful handmade cloth diaper cake, simple white gauze flats (tiny socks as 'flowers' very cute), and that kick started us. They now serve duty as burp cloths.
Date 12/5/2013
Jennifer
This is a great idea! I was planning on not having a baby shower because I don't want a bunch of toys/clothes/blankets that aren't necessary. Now I'm thinking a cloth diaper shower is the way to go!
Date 12/5/2013
Naomi Haskins
I received a lot of diapering stuff for my showers. I let everyone know that it was the one thing I really needed when they asked me or those throwing my shower and telling them exactly what I wanted worked perfectly. I got a great grovia starter pack, wetbags, wipes and much more. Of course people will buy what they want and that is fine- but for those who ask- let them know!
Date 12/5/2013
Kelly Hutslar
I wish I would have put that on the invitations!
Date 12/5/2013
Kim H
We didn't register for any since no local stores carry them, but my mom did order us a bunch of prefolds, which was awesome! We got a few disposables, but mostly stuff we needed like clothes, toiletries, pack & play, etc. I guess I wouldn't mind being invited to a shower that specifically asked for cloth, but I think it comes awful close to being tacky by telling someone what they can or cannot give you as a gift. If it is on the registry with other non-diaper items it is a lot less pushy than putting it in the invitation & getting upset because people didn't get you what you want.
Date 12/5/2013
Mary S
I wasn't able to go to my friend's recent baby shower, but I did send her some cloth diapers. I wish I would have known I was going to cloth diaper for my baby shower! I didn't start until DS was 6 months old.
Date 12/5/2013
Shavon Johnson
It would be awesome to have supportive friends and family get what you ask for. Good idea to be specific.
Date 12/5/2013
Rachel
I wish I had done this with my first born. If I am lucky enough to have another baby shower, I will only ask for cloth diapers and wipes.
Date 12/5/2013
Jessica Durant
I didn't even know I was going to CD while I was pregnant. I started when DD was 3 months old. I'm never turning back.
Date 12/6/2013
Caitlin Gramley
I didn't start Cloth diapers until my second child was 6 months. It would have been cool to build a stash through a shower!
Date 12/6/2013
Rachel Miller
I told everyone we only do cloth, but we only received disposable. Oh, well. It was the thought that counts, right?! I think a lot of people think doing cloth in this day and age is silly. I think my friends thought we'd try cloth and give up after a few weeks. Well, me and my husband love it. And, we're having fun building our stash. It is not as hard as we thought it was going to be.
Date 12/6/2013
Sarah Wattles
I wasn't sure how to approach the cloth diaper thing at my baby showed. I'm sure I will end up with gift cards to Walmart. Was hoping to find some stuff on the website i could use. Lol
Date 12/6/2013
Charity B
So glad to have found this post! I am expecting Jellybean #2 next month and need to complete my NB stash. A lady in my church is planning a shower for me after he comes (after the holidays) and I was trying to think of a tactful way to let everyone know that I really want cloth and that is all that I need.
Date 12/6/2013
Jennifer
I put cloth diapers on my registry and asked my hostess to mention that I want cloth diapers and no disposables. I did not receive any diapers at all. I was pretty sad about it.
Date 12/6/2013
fulufhelo gladness khorommbi
cloth diapers make such a good gift
Date 12/6/2013
Very
I hope your product can change my mind on cloth diapers. As cool as being an Auntie is, I don't want to add "absorbent" to my resumť. Lol
Date 12/6/2013
Kaitie D.
I wish I'd thought of this when expecting my daughter. I knew I was going to CD but we were overseas with the Military so didn't have a real Babyshower. Maybe with the next baby!
Date 12/6/2013
Rachel N
I think it really helps if you have a local cloth diapering store. We don`t have one where I live and I would be scared that everyone would just buy the Kushies diapers that are available at Toys-R-Us.
Date 12/7/2013
Andrea Smith
I've coordinated two diaper stashes for people's showers at church. I was approached and deemed the money collector and point person. First I took pledges, then I shopped deals, then I collected, then I found a talented person to pack those cute diaper items in a basket. So fun! Both were lucky to be right after Black Friday and I took FULL advantage of the date! The most fun one was at a local cloth diaper store. I was just able to buy and buy and buy because the deals kept coming the more I got. I was happy to support a local company AND get the brands the mama wanted. Now that mama is coaching ME on which diapers to add to MY stash for baby #3. Maybe I'll get a bit of a cloth diaper shower. :)
Date 12/7/2013
Nicole Portillo
I decided to cd when I was pregnant with baby #4. A baby shower was never an option since I had everything already for both genders. Wish I had thought of this tho. But like most of the moms, I don't think I would have gotten any. My SIL did offer to pay one of my cd purchases when I asked my husband for his card infront of her tho. It made me day to day the least :)
Date 12/7/2013
Nicole Portillo
I decided to cd when I was pregnant with baby #4. A baby shower was never an option since I had everything already for both genders. Wish I had thought of this tho. But like most of the moms, I don't think I would have gotten any. My SIL did offer to pay one of my cd purchases when I asked my husband for his card infront of her tho. It made me day to day the least :)
Date 12/8/2013
auschick
I love the idea of having a cd themed shower! I did get a couple of CD"s that I'd registered for on my registry though. Doing a cd cake w/ good quality prefolds would be a good option too :).
Date 12/8/2013
judith martinez
How things have changed! When my oldest was born there were no baby registries (as far as I know) and no one gave me diapers of any kind as a shower gift. Now I'm on baby #7 and registries are expected and everyone gets diapers as a baby gift. I got one large pack of disposables and that's it. I didn't mind because I used those along with the cloth I had and saved up to build a big enough stash to do 100% cloth.
Date 12/9/2013
Bekah Kuczenski
These are great tips! I wish I would have known about cloth diapering before I had my first baby, getting cloth diapers at my baby shower would have been a HUGE help! Recently when I have attended showers of moms who wish to use cloth I am usually the only one who buys cloth diapers and some people still bring disposables :(
Date 12/11/2013
Danitra Smith
I wish this came out before I had my shower. We registered for them but people just overlooked them. The ones that did ask had reservations about whether I would actually use them because it "sounded" nasty to them. On the flip side, no one really purchased disposables either...
Date 12/12/2013
Macy
This is SO true! We have several friends who use cloth diapers and recommended we try it out. I added several cloth diapers to our baby registry and didn't receive ANY! I was stunned to receive disposable diapers. I wish I had been more specific in my invites as well.
Date 5/4/2014
Emmi Marie
Thank you, this post is helpful. My family is planning a baby shower//welcoming party for my newborn some time next month. I am just starting out with cloth diapering her and her 1 year old sister. If anyone decides to get any gifts for the baby I would like to get cloth diapers and cloth diaper accessories.
Date 5/13/2014
Deirdre Ann Pfeffer
I had a diaper raffle and gave people all different options to buy at our local specialty store, had them registered online so they could just add one to there order or $20 for an all in one! My husband had a diaper poker party that mighty and the buy in was a cloth diaper and our local store had them all bagged up for the guys all they had to do was drop in and pick up a bag! The penalty for not getting one was double the price of a diaper! That worked even better then the raffle at my shower! I'm pretty sure it was the smoked tri tip and BBQ ribs that drew them in! My hubby was pretty proud of his stash contribution!!!
Date 5/27/2014
Emily
I'm so glad someone addressed this topic. I was wondering how to politely tell guests that we were cloth diapering so that they wouldn't waste their money on disposables. A cute poem is a great idea!
Date 11/2/2014
Megan W
Like many others, we put a little blurb on our shower invitations that we were having a cloth diaper raffle. They would get an entry to the raffle for every cloth diaper or accessory they brought. Since we requested that people RSVP by email we were able to contact all the guests to inform them what our prize was going to be, which was a wine tasting passport to several tasting rooms in the area. We ended getting good variety of cloth diapers to get our stash going!

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