Cloth Diaper Blog presents - the Mother-In-Law Diaries

Posted by Stacey on 10/22/2012 to Cloth vs. Disposables

She thinks cloth diapering is for hippies.

My mother-in-law and I have a very special relationship that involves colossal amounts of passive aggression (on her end) and patience (on my end). My husband is an only child from rural NY and I come from a huge family of eccentric French-Cajuns from New Orleans. You do the math.

We were openly harassed about having babies for about 3 years before we had our first son and I think that my MIL was just waiting to show me the ropes! When they would visit during my pregnancy, she would buy gallons of nursery water (Im still not sure exactly what that is), perfumed baby wipes, disposable diapers and strongly perfumed ointments and powders. Of course I was thankful, but I delicately explained that I preferred a more natural approach to baby care....without so many chemicals and fragrances (oh my, the fragrances). The cloth diaper announcement fell like a bomb because she could not understand why I would make things harder on myself. I was very offended by this at first and then it hit me.

My MIL had her baby in the era where women were being liberated by convenience and freedom of a disposable and portable lifestyle. Disposable diapers-baby formula-car seats! These were things that gave women freedom that they had never had before. Ironically, women in my generation were having kids later in life and turning back time. Of course, cloth diapers had come a long way since the 60s and 70s! Once I showed her the pin-less pocket diapers and soft fleece liners she understood...a little. In this day and age, natural lifestyle choices give us the option to do better for our babies than ever before. Cloth diapering doesn't have to be as convenient as using disposables because convenience isn't a novelty anymore (lets face it, we all do a TON of laundry anyway so who's really counting loads anyway). My MIL and I will always have to work a little harder to be on the same page but for now we have come to a truce in the diapering arena.

Next week on Mother-in-Law Diaries:

Shes a psychiatric nurse and likes to diagnose me with various mental illnesses if I dont agree with her.

Comments

Date 10/22/2012
Ketter Julie
lol. I'm glad my MIL isn't a psychiatric nurse because she would've had me committed long ago. She gave me so much crap (sorry) when I started cloth diapering 9 years ago. Now my guess is that some of her friends' grandchildren are cloth diapered because she's suddenly all for it now. Nothing I do is ever okay with MIL unless her friends' children or her daughter does it. I'm just so glad my sister in law is and amazingly cool person or I'd probably hate her.lol. At least I can cloth diaper m
Date 10/22/2012
Julie
lol. I'm glad my MIL isn't a psychiatric nurse because she would've had me committed long ago. She gave me so much crap (sorry) when I started cloth diapering 9 years ago. Now my guess is that some of her friends' grandchildren are cloth diapered because she's suddenly all for it now. Nothing I do is ever okay with MIL unless her friends' children or her daughter does it. I'm just so glad my sister in law is and amazingly cool person or I'd probably hate her.lol. At least I can cloth diaper m
Date 10/22/2012
Betsy Parr
Haha... thanks for the comic relief of the evening! I was lucky that most of my immediate and in-law family were very supportive. It was my extended family that said things like, "we'll see how long you last," or "so you're getting another washing machine right?" I just laughed at most of them. My little man is 7 months old and at family gatherings I get asked at least once if I'm still doing the "cloth-thing." That's fine. If using cloth and making my own baby food makes me a hippie, then I gue
Date 10/23/2012
Pamela
I don't understand why cloth diapering is still not the norm. Especially with all the options out there. Luckily I don't have the MIL horror stories like this one. Mine is very supportive and respects my decision to use cloth as much as possible. Daycare, on the other hand, could learn a thing or two from my MIL about acceptance of people's choices.
Date 9/9/2013
Mary
My MIL hasn't really said much about us cloth diapering our son. But she's really very nice, but it's hard to know what she's thinking sometimes. They live out of state so she hasn't really had to change our son too much. We'll see how things develop when we move closer and she's watching our son once in a while.
Date 12/10/2013
Mary S
It's really interesting the marketing that goes into trying to convince people that paper diapers are somehow better than cloth diapers.

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