What's the Baby Ingesting? While colic is never the "fault" of a parent, there can be reasons for it that you can prevent - such as if your little one is allergic to the formula you are feeding them, and even in the rare circumstance, be allergic to the mother's own milk. Discuss openly with your pediatrician your concerns, feeding patters, colic patterns, etc. Information is power, so keep a log of when your baby seems more fussy. Is it within a certain amount of time following a feeding? Perhaps something as simple as adjusting amounts the baby is being fed, when the baby feeds, even how could contribute to its unrest. Maybe the baby is not getting fed enough and is still hungry, so they cry.
It's also possible that they are getting overfed, as some first time parents think their child is "supposed" to eat a certain amount since that is what they are told so they keep trying to fill up an already full child. This can produce gas and uncomfortable bellies. Maybe the baby has a side of their neck that is out of alignment and they don't nurse well on when held a certain way so they don't eat properly. Above all else, observe and chart things to see if there are any patterns that may go unnoticed simply because the first time parent is so overwhelmed.
Take Breaks If at all possible, when your precious one seems on a never-ending yelling binge, take a break before you lose your cool. If you are lucky enough to have others in the house that can take over, by all means recruit the help. Maybe you have a fabulous neighbor that will walk with the baby for an hour while you get your head together. And remember, while very hard, there is nothing wrong with simply putting your baby in their swing, carrier, or crib for a few short minutes and letting them "cry" - even though it breaks your heart to do so.
It's better to allow them to cry, set a timer and walk into another room for that allotted amount of time than it is to get so frazzled you lose your temper with that small wonder. The baby is not crying to drive you crazy, though it can sometimes feel that way! And occasionally if you place their carrier on a running dryer and walk away for a few minutes, the wiggling roaring action can even soothe the baby. Just be careful the carrier is firmly secure before you walk off if you try that trick. And while you are "in another room" taking a break, be sure to be able to hear the baby still and if the crying abruptly stops, do quietly peek in to make sure that nothing is wrong.
Alter Your Approach: If your baby is just unhappy inside, try walking outside. Take the stroller out and stroll the baby around the block. Yes, they may yell. Yes, people may look at you like you're a mean parent. If you feel the need to explain that the baby has colic and you all need a change of scenery, do so. But remember you do not have to. If you are simply walking around your neighborhood and the baby is crying in the stroller, as long as you know the baby isn't hurting, you owe no one an explanation. First time parents many times worry more about the feelings of those around them than their own well being.
Now that's not to say take the child in the mall or a restaurant and let them squall and disturb others, but that also means you can go outside in the sunshine and the world and it will be fine. Sometimes simply putting the child in their car seat and driving around the block can calm them and also give you a change of heart too. Do what it takes and don't be afraid to do it for yours and your child's needs. If this means driving 15 times around the block at 1 AM but it is effective, by all means, go for it!
And above all, remember that even if you are a first time inexperienced parent, they call it "your" child for a reason. You really do many times know what is the best thing for YOUR child and try hard not to listen to well meaning outsiders anymore than you have.
Jennifer Rodriguez writes about health and education. Her recent work is about the pros and cons of online nursing programs.