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10 Things You Shouldn't Say To a Cloth Diapering Mom (or Dad)

Posted by Valerie on 9/25/2014 to Cloth Diaper Humor

A little #clothdiaperhumor

The decision to cloth diaper is often met with a questioning stare and an air of skepticism. CD outsiders may not always understand our reasons to cloth diaper...and they certainly do not understand our love affair with fluff (Jules anyone?). Some families are lucky to be embraced by a natural parenting community, while others face a virtual firing squad questioning, of all things, their diapering choices. Here is our list of the 10 things you shouldn't say to a cloth diapering mom (or dad):

  1. How are those cloth diapers working out for you?
    We’ve all gotten this line--usually accompanied by a smirk or a scarcastic tone. Seriously, nobody ever says, “So how about those sposies?” If you are really concerned, ask nicely, “Are you enjoying cloth diapering?” or maybe, “What is your favorite style of cloth diaper?” Most cloth diapering moms are passionate about their diapers and will talk about it when given the opportunity, just approach them with an open mind and a kind smile.

  2. Your baby will be bowlegged/get hip dysplasia from cloth diapers.
    False. Totally false. Babies are born with bow legs because their legs are folded in their mother’s womb.1 It is absolutely normal for a baby to have bowed legs.2 Hip dysplasia is generally attributed to genentic factors, but can be accelerated by forced or sustained passive hip extension. Hip flexion and abduction encourage healthy position and development of the hips,3 and these types of positions are actually aided by the bulk of cloth diapers. Also, if this myth were true, all of our ancestors would have problems walking.

  3. Your baby will roll over/crawl/walk late.
    There is no truth to this, nor are there any studies proving or disproving this. I can tell you from my personal experience that I know babies in cloth diapers that walked at 6 months, and some that walked at 13 months. There is a wide range of normal. Also, since when did moms want their babies to be mobile—that just means more messes they can make!

  4. You'll stick the baby with a pin.
    HAHA! The joke's on you. Most of us don’t use pins anymore. Diapers use a variety of closures, such as snaps and hook & loop. Cloth diapers have become way more convenient and easier to use.

  5. Why would you want to do all that work? Disposables are so convenient.
    Since when is pushing buttons on your washing machine hard work? I find it takes much more effort to take out the trash. And convenient? There is nothing convenient about putting on your bra, brushing your hair, and wrangling a toddler to run to the store if you are almost out of diapers.

  6. Why would you want to put your hands in the toilet? Ewwwe.
    I don’t want to put my hands in the toilet. Who told you I put my hands in the toilet? There are diaper sprayers and disposable liners that can help clean up the poop.

  7. You won’t stick with it.
    Seriously? Challenge accepted. Also, way to knock a new mom down. Moms should be encouraged—NEVER EVER make a new mom question her parenting choices. That is just mean. Always, ALWAYS build her up!

  8. What are you, a hippie now? What's next? Hairy legs and armpits?
    So what if I am? Hippies are peaceful people. Also, being kind to the earth is a GOOD THING. I still shave…but watch out, because it is almost NOSHAVEMBER, and then I cannot be responsible for what happens.

  9. Those diapers make your baby’s butt look so big.
    That’s your concern? My baby’s butt looks big? And that upsets you? Well, for one, that’s silly. Two, padded bums are perfect as little ones explore the world—a little cushion is good for the tailbone. Also, haven’t you heard? Big butts are totally in right now. Duh.

  10. Can I buy you some disposable diapers?
    No. Please don’t. This is my baby and I choose to use cloth diapers. I WANT to use cloth diapers. Now, if we are traveling or if somebody is ill, I might take you up on that offer. But I’ve researched my options and I know what I’m doing. My baby might be young, but I’ve got mama instincts. I appreciate your concerns, but I’ve got this.

Do you have anything to add to our list? Have you personally heard any of these comments, which ones?

1 http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001585.htm
2 http://www.babycenter.com/0_bowlegs_1435105.bc
3 http://aapnews.aappublications.org/content/32/9/11.1.full

Comments

Date 9/25/2014
Jen B
I love "noshavember"!
Date 9/25/2014
Stormy Abrams
Ha ha at #8! I just told my hubby the other day to watch out bc I thought i might be turning into a baby wearing, breast feeding, cloth diapering, homeschooling hippie lol.
Date 9/25/2014
Lauren Disney
Ha! My parents flat refuse to use cloth diapers, and my mom was furious that I started because, "I bought you that expensive Diaper Genie and now it's a waste of money!" I just went on Ebay and found pail liners made to be used with Diaper Genies, and bought two :) Hushed them right up!
Date 9/25/2014
Anel
Oh man! When I first told people about my decision to use cloth diapers, I think I heard all of these. To add to your list, I hear a lot of "ewwww, why?" Number 7 irritates me! To answer number 5... because we love it!
Date 9/26/2014
Maggie M.
Haha. Yep, I've heard all of those I think. Good times! Noshavember!
Date 9/26/2014
Courtney
I got "are you sure they are clean?" a lot from one particular friend when I started with my first. There was nothing more infuriating then having someone imply that I was unclean because I used cloth.
Date 9/26/2014
Vicki
When I first made the decision to switch to cloth, there were several people that told me "good luck, lol" like there was no way I would last. I even had the problem where Grandmas told me that they wouldn't deal with cloth if they had to watch my daughter. My response; that's fine, I'll find someone else! They quickly changed their mind :)
Date 9/26/2014
Lauren m
Yes!! Before our first was born people always said "oh, that'll last a few months then you'll have wasted your money." She is now 1 1/2 and my husband and I both agree to only ever use cloth if we have any more. I am always disappointed by disposables! I ALWAYS recommend cloth diapers to any moms and while most say it's not for them, I have converted a few! I also make cloth diapers and have made many new moms their stash! https://m.facebook.com/lauren.e.fabrications
Date 9/26/2014
Veronica
My personal fav comment has been, 'Cloth is so expensive, I'll stick with disposables, they're cheaper'. HA!!! Ok. You do that. ;)
Date 9/26/2014
Bobbi
What about the eww it is gross. Seriously people either way you deal with poop.
Date 9/26/2014
Stephanie
Given the current drought in California, I get a lot of "oh cloth sounds nice but it's such a waste of water!" I try to let it roll of my back (har har) but SERIOUSLY? It takes far more water to manufacture a sposie than it does to do 2 extra loads of laundry a week. Besides if that were true we'd all be wearing disposable clothes and using disposable dishes as opposed to washing and reusing them. Silly.
Date 9/26/2014
Stephanie
Yesss! To all of these! Before my daughter was born pretty much everyone told me that I wouldn't follow through and gave me such a bad attitude! Well, look at me, 5 months later and I love cloth diapering. I tell people that I have never had a blow out or a leak! My husband even loves them. I think people Just get defensive and they Just don't do the research.
Date 9/26/2014
Lottie F.
Buy us some disposables? That's funny...we even take ours on vacation!
Date 9/26/2014
Amy Bibbings
Just yesterday we got "so did you give in and switch to pampers?" (in reference to our 10m old) - when we answered no, we did get a 'well that's probably more comfortable for him'
Date 9/26/2014
Maureen L
I got the line "but in the middle of the night you're not going to want to deal with a cloth diaper. You're going to want something that's quick & easy. " jokes on her! My cloth are just as easy!
Date 9/26/2014
Anitra
Hah! I'm on baby #3 now in cloth. I think I've heard all of these, plus "how do you do it all yourself? I would only do it with a service to clean them" from lovely grandmas. But I always accept offers of disposables from other moms; we use sposies at night (or Pull-Ups for the daytime-toilet-trained); it's just easier.
Date 9/26/2014
Lottie F.
Buy us some disposables? That's funny...we even take ours on vacation!
Date 9/26/2014
Elizabeth
Something else not to say/do is assume that because we are using cloth that we are poor. A friend of the family said to me a while back "she's using cloth diapers for christ sake they can't even afford disposables" how rude!
Date 9/26/2014
Sheena
I always get the comment, "wow, you're brave!". I'm not sure how to respond to that as I can't tell if it's a comment on the laundry associated or what...
Date 9/26/2014
Misty
When I bought my first few cloth diapers I got a lot of questions. It hurt more Bc of hormones, but I told them it will save me money in the long run and it is environmentally friendly. I lived with a women who did cloth diapers and learned that it was better. I did accept all the disposable diapers from family Bc it will save me time and money since I only so far have 8 cloth pocket diapers. It will help on stays with family and overnights and days I need to launder the cloth. No one bought me cloth but they are pricy and my family doesn't have much money. I'm working on getting more. I'm also using cloth wipes thankfully the women I lived with did get me some of those and so did my mom. Easier to make lol. My family is more crafty. I got a lot of homemade items.
Date 9/26/2014
Chelsea
Someone told me once: "cloth diapers have more germs than American money." *Eyeroll* Clean ones have no more germs than any other clean laundry. Besides, small babies have a lot of poop blow outs, are those onesies now too filthy to try to save?
Date 9/26/2014
Sarah Reichart
My MIL tried to PAY us to NOT use cloth diapers. She still refuses to learn how to change them. I mean really? You snap them and that's it.
Date 9/26/2014
krista
How about "why do you use something that is going to give them diaper rash?"
Date 9/26/2014
Talia
Maybe I have nicer friends, or ones that keep their thoughts to themselves, but I haven't got most of these before, except for the "it seems like a lot of work". Most don't understand what cloth diapering is and have a narrow view of the subject as a result. I keep it positive and I try to answer questions if people have them. Most of the time, they're curious. Cloth diapers are pretty exotic to them! =)
Date 9/26/2014
sammantha
I get some inquiries from some family members but only because they are interested. remember, moms, you were once ignorant to the idea of "what to do with the poop". I just educate anyone who asks because thats what i hoped for when i asked others. it takes more time, and its not as convenient, but it is way cheaper in the long run. for easier night time changes find CD's that have velcro closure. for the big butt problem kawaii diapers have charcoal inserts that are less then half the thickness of regular ones and just as absorbant (they actually dont leak at all and my other ones do). I did get back lash from my mom and some women her age...because back then it was a whole different game.
Date 9/26/2014
lisa
I'm now 49 years old my daughter is 22 my son is 19. I use cloth diapers on both of them. I got all the same snide ignorant remarks and didn't pay any attention to them. The worst one was your children will never potty train. Jokes on them my children were potty trained by 14 months. Neither one of them wanted to be in diapers anymore.
Date 9/26/2014
Monica
Thankfully the people around me are either supportive/understanding or just don't say anything. :) The funniest thing I ever heard was from a doctor actually. He did the whole 'oh you're using cloth, good for you' then went on to say that he and his wife tried it but he couldn't stomach the poop!
Date 9/26/2014
pam
Date 9/26/2014
pam
I used cloth diapers for all five of my children. This was many years ago and I did use pins to fasten them. Not a big deal. It was so much less expensive than paper and I felt better for the environment. Even then there were people who were surprised that I would want the convenience of paper diapers.
Date 9/26/2014
Jade burroughs
ok I just love my cloth diapers and i do believe i got most of these questions lol. the funny thing is i ran out of clean ones and had to use disposables the other day and it took me forever to get it on lol.
Date 9/27/2014
Shannon Lyvers
Omg I got soooo many of these! I knew no one who was doing cloth but knew my mom had used cloth on all of her kids (back in the day). She was all for it when I told her I wanted to go cloth. Nearly everyone else came up with something from this list. #7 really stuck in my craw. But we made it! My son has been potty trained for nearly a year and I can say I never once put a sposie on his butt. Not even at night, not even travelling, not even pull ups during potty training (used CLOTH trainers by Blueberry), and hello not even at daycare (started going at 6 weeks, has been ever since). I love the part where people think its expensive - hello, were any sposie users ever able to resell their used up nasty plasties to recoup well over half their diapering costs? Ummmm I don't think so! Lol If a new mom needs to ease into, I explain the utter awesomeness of cloth hybrids (gdiapers) which we used. Most of the time filled with prefolds, sometimes filled with flushies. Awesome.
Date 9/27/2014
Alicia C.
I got "eww, why do you want all that poop floating around your washing machine." Guess these are the same people who don't flip solids out of their kid's disposables into the toilet like they're supposed to.
Date 9/27/2014
Lauren
I think disposables are more disgusting and more work. We're between sizes and I've had to use sposies lately; the poop up his back and leaking out of the legs is more than I can handle.
Date 9/27/2014
Bree Duncan
Honestly, I used cloth and I hated it. I used them because I had no choice. However, I understand why moms prefer them, and thats cool with me. Also, i usef pins with my daughter, and I poked her once on accident in the entire year she wore them.
Date 9/27/2014
amanda
the best response to any put down about cloth,is yes it is a tiny bit harder than a disposable,I suppose , cloth mums need to be more organised and a lazy mum wouldn't be able to do it,they would have to use disposables.
Date 9/27/2014
amanda
the best response to any put down about cloth,is yes it is a tiny bit harder than a disposable,I suppose , cloth mums need to be more organised and a lazy mum wouldn't be able to do it,they would have to use disposables.
Date 9/28/2014
Bianca Norman
We actually haven't had any of these mentioned towards us when people learn that we cloth. They mostly just have questions, are curious, and want to know more.:)
Date 9/28/2014
Stephanie crank
I get really I tried that but it never worked for me
Date 9/28/2014
petra
I got a very condescending "ohhh, hohoho, I guess you would use cloth diapers, you have the time." So do people cloth diaper because we have no life or is it that cloth diapers magically take all of your time? I admit I spend a lot of time these days on dipes but that's because I'm currently on leave expecting my first in November. I just like looking at all the different kinds and searching out the cutest patterns. I expect that'll change soon when I'm actually using the diapers.
Date 9/30/2014
Rebekah
I'm so tired of snooty cloth diaper moms, get off your high horses, what you put on your kids butt has little to no real meaning in your child's life! you're no better than any other mother. motherhood is hard and this rotten additive towards people who don't use cloth diapers is the sort of thing that tears women down instead if building them up.
Date 9/30/2014
ami
At my baby shower my sister and aunt made everyone guess how long I would use cloth (thinking it wouldn't last.) my DD is 9months and we love cloth. They also thought it was weird that I dont want to buy baby food but make my own and wear my baby everywhere. Just the other day my aunt asked you want me to get her carrier out the car so you can wear her (we were going on a shipping trip.) they have all came around and know my baby loves cloth, babywearing and homemade food. Mother knows best!!I have gotten all these stupid questions. even from her pediatrician " I can't believe you stuck with cloth, I could even do that." And a client I have who is super nice said "that's not a lazy mom, she really cares about her baby!"
Date 10/2/2014
Anna S.
I think that it is hard to cloth diaper because most of society uses disposables. I think there is a certain level of peer pressure that goes with breaking out of the mold and doing a different thing. So I can understand all these things being said
Date 10/3/2014
sherry blamer
I have never had anyone say anything negitive about me using cloth. I have nothing but support from my family.
Date 10/3/2014
Drea sypek
I do what I want :)
Date 10/8/2014
Janet
Agree with number #7. Instead of putting someone down, we should be encouraging, not making a (new) mom question her parenting choices.
Date 10/8/2014
Hallie
I think it is funny that parents that use disposables think it is normal to store poopy diapers in their kitchen or around their house in garbage pails until they are full enough to take them out! Yuck! Poop goes in the toilet and out of the house right away! lol
Date 10/8/2014
jilliann m
So far I don't think I've heard too many of these. Guess I'm lucky.
Date 10/9/2014
Brenda P
You know they stink, right? Hahahaha Disposables stink!! Not cloth. Lol
Date 10/9/2014
Johnna A
I always get asked about the poop...good grief! You deal w/ poop in sposies too! Babies poop no matter what is on their bum.
Date 10/9/2014
Alyssa Lynn
We switched to cloth at 11 months and people asked why now, and said I wouldn't stick with it. Challenge definitely accepted! 😈😈😈
Date 10/10/2014
Rhiannon
#1 all the way. Hear it often, honestly cloth seems easier to me than sposies.
Date 10/10/2014
Mesha C.
"How are those cloth diapers working out for you?"--oh this questions...is just plain rude.
Date 10/13/2014
Devin M
This post is funny. People sure do love to share their opinions and vast knowledge about everything under the sun. Ugh. Can't wait til these comments start pouring in!
Date 10/14/2014
Megan Wesley
We are new to cloth diapering and anxiously awaiting the arrival of our daughter in December. My biggest motivation (besides the given ones of saving money and having a cute fluffy bum little girl in the house) is proving that I can do it and stick with it. Obviously it's not always going to be smooth sailing all the time, but what part of having kids is?
Date 10/14/2014
Veronica Perry-Johnson
Hahaha...I never heard of number 2. Bowlegged wow.
Date 10/17/2014
Nicole Deardorf
I love this list. really made my day lol.
Date 10/18/2014
Sara
Haha! Love #5!
Date 10/18/2014
Liz Wiff
Thankfully most people in my circles have been supportive. Or at least not looked at me like I have 3 heads, lol. My sister (who introduced me to cloth years before my first kiddo arrived), has a MIL who still, 4 years into cloth diapering, still says nearly all of these regularly. She even refuses to watch my nephews for more than an hour or two unless she can use sposies... Thankful for the supportive people in my life!
Date 10/24/2014
Tiffany K.
I've heard them all. Most people make comments because they don't know what CD entails. But I don't think cloth is an all-or-nothing choice. 1 cloth diaper a day is 1 less disposable in a landfill. So do what you have to do to stay sane. Do both if you want. Who cares what everyone else is doing.
Date 10/24/2014
Emily
I really haven't encountered any negativity - just people who don't think they could do it... so I encourage them :)
Date 10/24/2014
Mara Davenport
I have gotten several of those from my family!!!
Date 11/1/2014
Laura
Haha, this is hilarious and so true! Thanks for the laugh!
Date 11/7/2014
Janet Pratt
Agreed!
Date 11/8/2014
Alayne Langford
Two of your comments hit home with me, #1 how are they working out, said in a skeptical way and #10 Can I just buy you some regular diapers (and they have). It is interesting getting these comments when we are trying to help save the world and keep our babies comfortable! :)
Date 1/2/2015
Sarah Taylor
HAHA. I have actually been asked, told, commented to about these same things in my short 3 months of cloth diapering. I mostly want to respond with Kiss my A. However, most of the times I ignore or roll my eyes. I love cloth diapering and am so glad my husband begrudgingly accepts it and that I have a great CD group with wonderfully supportive mommas.
Date 1/2/2015
Peta-Gaye Daniel
LOL... Living in NYC, and not knowing many (or, really, any cloth diapering moms), I'm bracing myself for some of these statements, but who cares? I'm so excited about cloth diapering and love my stash! Folks can say what they want to. We're saving money... baby's diapers are fashionable, and we're helping our environment as well.
Date 1/17/2015
Melissa McCarty
I got those exact responses. Eventually, everyone realized that I AM a baby wearing, cloth diapering, homeschooling, breastfeeding hippie. They just got used to it. They still think it's weird, but they got used to it. They just stopped asking questions. Thank goodness.
Date 1/17/2015
Karri c
i always get, "I would NEVER put poop in my washing machine!" Oh well that's good to know- neither would I!
Date 2/9/2015
A.K.
My favorite is always "what do you do with the poo?!" Or "that's just disgusting" And our family just thinking we're crazy
Date 2/22/2015
Candice Balser
I haven't really come across too many of these yet. Just the, "What do you do with the poo?" It's crazy what gets people up in arms sometimes. I choose to cloth diaper because it's better than having a trash can fill up with disposables on a daily basis. That, and it works for us. Besides, the variety of colors and prints of cloth diapers is very desirable.
Date 3/2/2015
heather
So what are non cloth diaper users allowed to say? What should our reaction be when you tell us you use cloth diapers?
Date 3/9/2015
Theresa Hover
"those diapers make your baby's butt look big"... seriously?! I'm so glad I've never heard this one, of all the ridiculous reasons to dislike cloth diapering, I don't think I could keep a strait face if someone through this line at me :) Thanks for the humorous responses :)
Date 4/15/2015
Julie
I've heard most of those. I started cloth diapering 11 years ago and have had two more babies in cloth since then. My favorites are when people tell me I'll give up, it's *so* much extra laundry and I'll give up when I have to put my hands in the toilet. HAHA! They really have no clue. At all. Diaper sprayers and the Spray Pal have been invented since the stone age.lol. I actually overheard my neighbors discussing the fact that I won't save any money cloth diapering as I was bringing in diapers from the line. I was tempted to ask them how many babies they've cloth diapered but I refrained. I also once had a nurse who was a friend of a friend try to tell me I'd give up soon because it was too hard and too much laundry. I must've given her my famous "mama bear" look while telling her how long I'd been cloth diapering, how many babies I'd had in cloth and that pushing buttons was oh so much work because she quickly stopped talking about it and moved a few seats away from me.LOL! I don't think this woman even had children. I just don't understand the point. I don't care how those nosy people diaper their children, why do they care about how I diaper mine? Thankfully most of my closest friends and family like my mom and sister have been very supportive. My mom especially, since she cloth diapered me. :)
Date 4/15/2015
Amanda Jordan
My folks are surprisingly supportive. Once they saw that my best friend used cloth they knew it wouldn't be long until I did my research and started too.
Date 6/7/2015
Amber Collier
I'm pretty sure I have heard all of these! Oh well, I love using cloth and I'm the one cleaning the poop and everything so I ignore what people say.
Date 7/2/2015
Tov
I tried sposies when we went on a road trip. ( I packed about eight cloth diapers as well just in case. By the end of the first day I was so fed up with the disposables ( two blow outs and had to change the baby's clothes) that I just used the cloth exclusively and we washed them daily. I love love Love Cloth! We have never had a blowout in cloth.
Date 8/30/2015
Sylvie
From my MIL : can you buy me disposables for when I babysit? I don't want to store your dirty diapers or do extra laundry. Me: no I will not buy you disposables. I don't use them and will not spend money on them. Feel free to buy your own disposables if you have the extra money to spend and if "storing dirty diapers" (usually in your garage or outside) for a night is such a problem.
Date 4/9/2016
Marissa
Thank you for this. After 4 years and third baby on the way I have herd just about all of the comments and discusted looks. Now I am much more confident and frankly the snarky comments are what kept me montivated to stick to it. ??
Date 9/26/2016
Lilly
My best friend (the godmom to my daughter) asked me if I was using cloth when I told her I was she said if she ever watched the baby she was going to use disposables because she didn't want to "safeguard a poopy diaper"... uhhh ok but you buy the disposables. My grandfather in law said that I wouldn't stick with them after the first time I have to wash them... like I'm not gonna be washing baby clothes anyways. This is the only one that really hurt. My mom told me that she supported me, and that she used cloth with me till i was 3months but then gave up. When she saw the diapers we got for her granddaughter she told us almost immediately that they were way better then what she had and asked me how to use them. My father was very proud of us for sticking with it but says he's gonna use Huggies if he watches her, that's fine most of our stash is prefolds/flats so there a little harder for him to fold. Mostly I've gotten support, a lot of my friends are really great and honestly interested in why I chose cloth. I guess I'm lucky ??

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